[March 5, 2018] “Demanding” respect is the surest way not to get it. People may show signs of respect for you if you have power over them but deep down they will not respect you if you demand respect from them. There are no shortcuts, formulas, or hacks to change how respect is obtained. Respect must be earned; never demanded.
“Without feelings of respect, what is there to distinguish men from beasts?” – Confucius, Chinese philosopher
Did you ever wonder why in the old children’s story that Pinocchio wanted to be a real boy? It’s about the human struggle to be wanted and to be loved and respected as a little boy. The Adventures of Pinocchio (1883) is as timeless as emotions have been a part of humanness. Created by woodcarver Geppetto, Pinocchio struggles with issues that all humans struggle with day in and day out; no surprise that the story is so popular. Ultimately it is about gaining respect and how easily it is lost; as his nose grows with each lie.
Here are my top 12 ways to “earn” respect:
- Listen to what others have to say.
- Don’t worry about being popular.
- Treat others with respect.
- Make timely and informed decisions.
- Care for others.
- Avoid vulgar lingo, heavy accents, and vague language.
- Keep all promises.
- Don’t waste people’s time.
- Protect other people’s back.
- Politely let others know where you stand.
- Let values guide your actions (a sign of good character).
- Be prepared, always!
Positive relationships (in business, family, etc.) are built on mutual love and respect. Bruce Lee, the martial artist and pop culture icon, once said that, “knowledge will give you power, but character respect.” He went on to say that getting respect is one of the most difficult things to obtain and one of the easiest to lose. Therefore it must be nurtured in order to keep it.