[December 27, 2018] Being a leader means remembering that you are there for a reason and the reason is not about having everything your way. A number of my readers asked that I compile a list of fake traits that leaders hold. Below is a list of 22 of these fake traits; each being commonly encountered in poor leaders.
- Controlling: there is a greater interest in forcing people to do what you desire.
- Deceptiveness: in attitude, speech, or behavior.
- Blaming others or circumstances: for any failure of mission or your failure.
- Not developing other leaders: either due to personal limitations or fear of rivals.
- Giving excuses: when things go wrong or not going according to plan.
- Overcommit and under deliver
- The desire to be popular: no matter what, being liked and popular is the main desire.
- Disparages others: boasting about how great you are.
- Takes credit: a true leader acknowledges all involved.
- Breaks promises: once made, a true leader will do whatever it takes to do as promised.
- Disrespecting others: practices incivility, rudeness, and insolence.
- Wastes time
- Pursues personal vendettas: keeps score and get back at others.
- Use acronyms attached to your name: to show your importance; a braggart.
- Not knowing what it means to listen or obey
- Being too busy for others
- Cheating: real leaders never cheat to get ahead or to obtain an advantage.
- Never get their hands dirty: there is more interest in having others do the dirty work.
- Panic: when things go bad, poor leaders panic.
- Reject the idea of selfless service
- It’s always about quid pro quo: they owe me if I do something for them.
- Fails to set expectations
This story is really about ways to spot poor leadership. When you see any on this list, even you may have done it yourself, so be sure to recognize them for what they are about.
These fake traits of a leader are not complete but I believe the list is comprehensive. I would venture to bet that all of us have experienced most, if not all, of these fake traits in leaders. At some point in our lives, we will always find a leader who fails to live up to their responsibilities.