[March 30, 2021] Spring is here, and people are getting out more, going to work, shopping, and just walking around their neighborhoods. As a leader, if you want to feel better, make your boss happier, and help your family, then being liked will help. Here are five ways NOT to be liked as a leader.
We hear about the importance of respect in the workplace but less about the need for a leader to be liked. It’s a sign of changing times. Today’s jobs – in the West – are seeing an adjustment in the way we work together. Not only are we more casual in appearance and are willing to flatten the authority hierarchy, but people want to be where they can trust and appreciate their boss.
Today, a well-liked leader is desirable at work because they are easier to work with. A friendly, pleasant personality reduces stress and tension. Such qualities are long-term assets that make the workplace more efficient and effective.
The more you are liked, the more people trust you and have confidence you will succeed. Following a likable person is suitable for everyone. Warning; trying too hard to be liked or trying to be popular can be counterproductive.
Here are five ways not to be liked as a leader:
- Ignore the needs and desires of your co-workers. Showing you don’t care or being focused only on yourself.
- Act in ways that destroys trust. Lying, cheating, picking favorites, and playing office politics.
- Have a bad attitude. See the negative side of every situation. Walk with a chip on your shoulder. Assume everyone is out to get you. Playing the victim.
- Ignore important life dates and don’t acknowledge people. Don’t pay attention to wedding dates, birthdays, children’s births, or any significant event in the life of your co-workers.
- Don’t keep your promises. Those who make commitments, make promises (stated or implied), or assurances and don’t keep them will quickly lose the faith of those working with them.
Learning how to be well-liked and stay that way requires effort. Sometimes that is not easy. It does, however, take plenty of practice. Now that Spring is here, start practicing.