A Tribute to Daddy

By | September 21, 2022

[September 21, 2022]  Two days ago, my dad passed away at 93.  He is now with his wife Mary of 71 years (and my mother), who passed away a mere two weeks ago.  My heart is broken, but it would be ungrateful to think, even for a minute, “Why me?” when I was privileged to have Daddy until I was 70 years old!  Everyone should be so lucky.

I had seen him in Kansas just this past July, and we had a good time.  We watched his favorite football team, the Dallas Cowboys; “daddy” was all in on the state of Texas.  The games were from the 1970s, and he could name many on the team, including quarterback Roger Staubach.  And we had fun seeing the New York Yankees play – our family’s number one team – from the 1950s.  Yogi Berra, Joe DiMaggio, Whitey Ford, Mickey Mantle, Phil Rizzuto, all the greats on the Yankees team, he could name them all despite his severe dementia.

Born in 1929 like my mom, he was just 22 when I was born.  He survived everything his country endured; the Great Depression, World War II and the Korean War, the Sixties, and all the cultural convulsions.  And he survived a lot personally as well; a brain tumor, diabetes, and cancer, but luckily missed out on COVID thanks to good care from my sister Terri.

Daddy was the youngest in his family.  His older brother Douglas James (we called him Uncle DJ) and three sisters, Lillian, Bertha and Edith, teased him as he told the story.  They were much older than him, which was good for him as his parents doted on him a bit.  Grandma told me that daddy’s earliest sentence was, “DJ wait for me!”

An outstanding debt is owed to my sister Terri for caring for mom and dad for several years in her home.  No longer could they care for themselves despite wanting to remain in Texas.  Terri had her large basement gutted and rebuilt just for them.  It was a great place to relax and talk sports, reminisce about the old days, identify who was in the old black and white photos, and discover more about mom and daddy.

Daddy was a stern man but was always willing to help us kids.  He was a bit too tolerant of me, I think.  I was the one who probably disappointed him the most in my early years.  My brother and I were up to doing something that could have earned us the Darwin Award on multiple occasions.  He also insisted we attend church on Wednesdays and Sundays.  Sitting in the church pews was not for me, but daddy said, “Sit still and pay attention!”  I didn’t listen, but I never left mon and daddy’s side in church.

He taught me to ride a bike, bait a hook, row a boat, hit a baseball, shoot a shotgun, and encouraged me to join the Boy Scouts and the value of having men teach you how to be a good man.  He held me to the highest ethical standards.  This was invaluable to such a wayward boy like me who liked his friends, freedom and running around town whooping and hollering.

The loss of my last parent, obviously, makes me an orphan, like probably 99.9 percent of people my age.  It still comes as a shock because daddy, it seemed, would live forever.

Thank you, daddy.

Author: Douglas R. Satterfield

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24 thoughts on “A Tribute to Daddy

  1. Armywife

    What a moving article! May your dad rest in peace and may you feel God’s embrace as you go through this most difficult time.

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  2. Rev. Michael Cain

    Send my deepest sympathy. I am praying that God comforts you like no one can ever do.

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  3. ZB22

    We are so sorry to hear of your “daddy’s” passing. He was a very special man of God who had a tremendous influence on your family. He will be missed but our comfort comes in knowing that he is most certainly in the arms of God and you and your family will see him again.

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    1. Kenny Foster

      Well said, ZB22 and thank you and those who made such appropriate comments.

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      1. Pooch T.

        Like Yusaf, he and I have been regular members of this leadership forum that attracts some truly good folks. I want to extend my condolences to Gen. Satterfield and his family.

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  4. osmodsann

    We are praying for peace and comfort in this time of need. May God Bless the family. 👼

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  5. Harold M. Smith II

    To the family of Gen. Doug Satterfield. With each new day may PEACE find a place in your hearts. As you walk through this time of loss, may you know that the Lord walks with you and he will comfort you. – May God bless All of you.

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  6. Eye Cat

    Our family prays that God grants you all comfort in your time of sorrow and strength going forward. Cliff Satterfield loved the lord and we know that hisprayers will continue to surround you now and forevermore. 1st Thes 4:1 “Sorrow not, even as others have not hope.”

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    1. Unwoke Dude

      Ditto to these messages of hope and condolences and prayers. Thanks to all who have taken a minute from their lives to post a short message for the Satterfield Family. This is what good works are all about and what Gen. Satterfield has done for us for over 9 years now.

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  7. Army Captain

    “He taught me to ride a bike, bait a hook, row a boat, hit a baseball, shoot a shotgun, and encouraged me to join the Boy Scouts and the value of having men teach you how to be a good man.” — Gen. Satterfield. This says it all. ⛪

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  8. New Girl #1

    Gen. Satterfield, you have now lost both your parents and while you are much older than most, you are still having loss. We are praying for you and your family.

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      1. Dead Pool Guy

        — and the reason is that we respect and trust what Gen. Satterfield has said and written here on this great leadership website.

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