[January 22, 2023] If you’ve been bullied, you must realize that bullying develops over time and that you must be wise enough to recognize it in its early stages. The solution is to step forward against bullying early in its developing stages when it is not so destructive. Don’t be victimized by a bully.
People have a strong tendency to ignore early bullying behavior, often purposefully or are insufficiently perceptive enough to see it. Then, the bully is emboldened because of a failure to deal with it right then and there.
Be ready to say what you have to say to a potential bully immediately. Be sure what you say is the truth; no deceit or lying because the bully will know. Look them directly in the eye, point out what you believe they are doing and do so in the most firm, calm voice that you can muster. This makes the bully more self-aware and they will often back off and apologize.
“It is not virtuous to be victimized by a bully, even if that bully is oneself.” – Dr. Jordan B. Peterson
Part of dealing with a bully is understanding yourself, your strengths especially, but also what makes you weak and what fears you possess. This takes a bit of courageous conscious thought, a degree of figuring out what you want from life and being able to say what your future holds. This self-awareness is not something quickly gained because it takes serious effort. Better to be aware than to be a worm who ignores the early bird in the morning.
This idea of knowing yourself as the beginning of a better life is as old as the human race. Practice facing those things that you fear. Fear of the bully is a problem that you must deal with properly. Stand up for yourself. Moreover, learn to stand up for others, those who are weak and afraid. That will put you on the right path in your life. Tell the bully the truth without looking at the consequences, which also makes for a great adventure.
If you run from the bully, he will go after you; what else is he to do but chase down his prey? Stand your ground; there is no other real choice. You are tougher than you think you are.
Don’t be victimized by a bully!
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