Don’t Play with Your Kids: the NY Times

By | September 8, 2023

[September 8, 2023]  Here’s a newsflash from the New York Times!  You should not play with your kids.  In an article* by Edan Lepucki, a mother of three children under ten, she suggests that children don’t need parents for play because it stifles their playtime.  This paper was once deservedly called The Old Gray Lady, meaning it had a long, continuous, impeccable reputation for accurate reporting.

Today, we can argue the New York Times is willing to publish trash or, to use a social media metaphor, “clickbait” its shrinking audience.  This recent article says we are not supposed to play with our kids.  Presumably, we should not play with them so we can do more things we want to do as adults.

But, those small moments we spend playing with our kids, mundane games, reading, playing dress up, etc., are because they teach your kids that they are worth your time.  When you take the time to put on lipstick for your daughter or help your son build a snow fort in the backyard, the message is you want to spend time with them, and that you are willing to stop what you’re doing and show them they are a priority in your life.

Ms. Lepucki initially did play in her children’s lives but discovered that she was a “terrible playmate, a tired mother who did little beyond obstructing.”  Her motto, now this is her words, “Moms don’t play.”  She does admit that her approach is not suitable for everyone.  Thank goodness there is some realization that maybe her way of not playing with her kids might not be beneficial.  She concludes:

“When my kids and I stop doing our own things and come together, it’s because we want to.  The activities we do together offer all of us pleasure; we opt in and because of this, we actually have fun.  I may not play, but I’m goofy and affectionate, and I love to talk about feelings.  I love to teach too: how to count, how to read, how to make guacamole.  It feels good to be with my kids in these specific ways, and to let myself be there.  It took some time, but I’ve realized I can’t be every kind of mother.  I can only be one.  I can only be theirs.” – Edan Lepucki

My best advice is don’t read this article and go play with your kids.



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18 thoughts on “Don’t Play with Your Kids: the NY Times

  1. Hiratio Algiers

    It is amazing that the New York Times or any respectable paper would allow such obviously wrong trash to be published in their pages. The Times used to be a paper of record, meaning they were the go to place to find the truth. Today they are not even a shell of the truth. they are all about perpetuating the lie that free men and women are a threat to democracy. What loons.

    1. Qassim

      Don’t surprise yourself Hiratio, they’ve been this way for a long time.

  2. Cow Blue

    Rule #1, Never take advice of any kind from the New York Times.
    Rule #2, Never read the New York Times.
    Rule #3, when in doubt, see Rules #1 and #2.

  3. Jonnie the Bart

    If you read the New York Times on a regular basis, then you deserve being stupid.

  4. ZB Two Two

    “An age-by-age guide to playing with your kid”
    There’s a lot on a parent’s to-do list, and playing with your kid doesn’t always make it to the top. But play is important for your kid’s development, and getting down on their level to goof off for a few minutes can actually shave some of the stress off your day. It’s a win-win. We turned to parents and experts to discover the best ways to have fun with your kid, at every age.

    1. Lynn Pitts

      Yep, just do it. Being there for them is what is most important, it’s called quality time.

  5. Steve Dade

    See quote below. Translation, “I’m a liberal and don’t have time for my kids since they are not really that important to me.”
    Ms. Lepucki initially did play in her children’s lives but discovered that she was a “terrible playmate, a tired mother who did little beyond obstructing.” Her motto, now this is her words, “Moms don’t play.” She does admit that her approach is not suitable for everyone.

    1. Julia

      Yeah, she probably hires a nanny, a racial minority and pays squat. Her husband likely has one of those government jobs in DC where he “consults” with the big name Democrats and has PROGRESSIVE written all over both of them, hanging out in country clubs, playing golf with the bigwigs, sucking up to the Obamas and Bidens, and generally being bitchy to good people who they see as uncouth knuckledragging idiots without education.

      1. Harry Donner

        Julia, OUCH, tell me what you think. Alto I have to admit that you are very likely spot on.

  6. Kerry

    Well, I do believe I’m surprised to find that someone would actually sign their real name to such utter trash but I guess if it’s in the New York Times, I should not be so surprised.

  7. Yusaf from Texas

    Bam, nailed it Gen. Satterfield, once again you sure know how to find stupidity from stupid people who write or say stupid things and call themselves “enlightened” or “progressive.” Says it all.

  8. Yiddy of Macedonia

    Gen. Satterfield, when you made it clear that this statement “Don’t play with your kids” was in the New York Times, I knew immediately it would be a worthless, counter-reality article. Clickbait? Yeah, maybe. But idiocy? Yep. The NYT has gone from Cadillac to Clown Car in just a decade or so.

      1. Jerome Smith

        Right, Gen. Satterfield and thank you. You should play with your kids. You MUST play with your kids. That is their proof, given continuously that you love them, constantly reminding them that you are there for them come good or bad. That want to know that you have their back (even if they cannot mentally express it). And this is the beginning of how to teach your kids how to respect others.

      2. Jack of all Trades

        ❤❤❤❤❤❤👀👀👀👀👀 Don’t ya just love this leadership forum and Gen. Satterfield? I sure do.


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