[April 21, 2022] Embrace failure, learn and move on. Remember that failure is only temporary.
Failure has been around since Adam and Eve ate the apple in the Garden of Eden. They would “become like God” if they ate it, so claimed the serpent. Sadly, Adam and Eve believed the lie and chose to eat the apple in disobedience to God, now called “the Fall of Man.” Of course, they figured out quickly that eating the forbidden fruit was a massive failure on their part and that they were responsible (although Adam initially denied his actions).
Failure does not always stare us in the face. The greatest failures of humankind occurred during the 20th Century. Preventing Adolf Hitler’s rise to power and the Jewish Holocaust he perpetuated. Stopping Mao’s “Great Leap Forward” and subsequent great Chinese famine. And, of course, many more that took fewer lives but continue in their infamy, like the unsinkable Titanic, the safe Hindenburg airship, the Chornobyl nuclear plant, the NASA Challenger disaster, and many more.
The most common reason people fail is they have never set the criteria for success. They drift toward some undefined goal, and when their life does not work out, they crash and burn, blaming others or fate along the way.
It is only natural that we want to avoid failure, even in the smallest of things. Failure can bring embarrassment, resentment, and frustration. However, the fact is that no great success was ever achieved without failure. It may have been one failure or a series of failures, but failure is a necessary stepping stone to achieving our dreams.
If you really want something, my experience is that you can have it. If you want it and are willing to reorient your life to make the probability that your desire will happen, it will occur. Of course, you must sacrifice something worthwhile to achieve your goal. That is the sacrificial idea that you cannot get everything you desire, and it will have a cost.
Failing to try, giving up, standing on the sidelines watching; these are the real failures because there is no willingness to make the required sacrifice. If you want to be a medical doctor or any highly respected professional, there is a lengthy, difficult, expensive road ahead through higher education and apprentice training. Not everyone is willing to make that sacrifice, nor are some even capable. What is the point if you don’t at least try?
The symbolism of the forbidden fruit demonstrates the idea that humans have aims and the free will to move toward them. But they must have the desire and the will to make the proper sacrifice.
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