[May 13, 2022] Life is tough. When we accept that life has its ups and downs, we can begin to incorporate the dangerous side of ourselves. You are not safe by rejecting the danger.
“Life is hard. Life is difficult. Life is going to punch you in the gut. But when you change your attitude, you change your behavior. When your behavior changes, so do your results.” – Will Hurd
When you are in charge of yourself (and perhaps in charge of others) and responsible for your well-being and accountability, your perspective changes; you become more focused and direct, and you don’t take bullcrap from nobody. Life is like taking a cold shower; shocking and uncomfortable. Life can be painful. Life is tough. And if you’re stupid and lazy and willfully blind, it’s even harder.
If you want to be content with your life, you must see life for what it is. The sooner you learn this, the better for you and those around you.
Part of your development as a mature adult is to acknowledge and then accept the inner strength necessary to survive. This strength is the Tiger within you; strong, attentive, far-seeing, and enduring, but also brutal, dangerous, lethal, and daring. The dangerous traits part of you is what you use to overcome the tragedies in life. Do not reject these traits (yes, they could lead you down the wrong path) but transform them for your use.
You can see people who have accepted their dangerous selves and people who have not. Those who have failed to accept the dangerous side of themselves are naïve. You can tell just by looking at and talking to them. And these same people are often resentful because other people take advantage of them. That more dangerous person, the one who has accepted and controls that danger, is the one who can protect against many hazards.
Those who properly direct their dangerous side, like the trained-professional Special Forces soldier who keeps his weapon ready, are capable of fending off evil and hazards.
Your potential for destruction is necessary. It’s a persona that gives people self-respect, like the kind of respect we have for a wild animal (or dragon). To control our dangerous side is to prevent rage, anger, and bitterness. Either you are dangerous or not. There is no in-between. You are not safe by rejecting the danger.
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