Get Used to Cold Showers: Life is Tough

[May 13, 2022]  Life is tough.  When we accept that life has its ups and downs, we can begin to incorporate the dangerous side of ourselves.  You are not safe by rejecting the danger.

“Life is hard.  Life is difficult.  Life is going to punch you in the gut.  But when you change your attitude, you change your behavior.  When your behavior changes, so do your results.” – Will Hurd

When you are in charge of yourself (and perhaps in charge of others) and responsible for your well-being and accountability, your perspective changes; you become more focused and direct, and you don’t take bullcrap from nobody.  Life is like taking a cold shower; shocking and uncomfortable.  Life can be painful.  Life is tough.  And if you’re stupid and lazy and willfully blind, it’s even harder.

If you want to be content with your life, you must see life for what it is.  The sooner you learn this, the better for you and those around you.

Part of your development as a mature adult is to acknowledge and then accept the inner strength necessary to survive.  This strength is the Tiger within you; strong, attentive, far-seeing, and enduring, but also brutal, dangerous, lethal, and daring.  The dangerous traits part of you is what you use to overcome the tragedies in life.  Do not reject these traits (yes, they could lead you down the wrong path) but transform them for your use.

You can see people who have accepted their dangerous selves and people who have not.  Those who have failed to accept the dangerous side of themselves are naïve.  You can tell just by looking at and talking to them.  And these same people are often resentful because other people take advantage of them.  That more dangerous person, the one who has accepted and controls that danger, is the one who can protect against many hazards.

Those who properly direct their dangerous side, like the trained-professional Special Forces soldier who keeps his weapon ready, are capable of fending off evil and hazards.

Your potential for destruction is necessary.  It’s a persona that gives people self-respect, like the kind of respect we have for a wild animal (or dragon).  To control our dangerous side is to prevent rage, anger, and bitterness.  Either you are dangerous or not.  There is no in-between.  You are not safe by rejecting the danger.

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Author: Douglas R. Satterfield

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24 thoughts on “Get Used to Cold Showers: Life is Tough

  1. Mr. Savage

    I always as a kid wanted to be a Special Forces soldier. I didn’t achieve it and that is one regret I do have. As we approach Memorial Day, I will remember where I failed myself. But today I encourage young men to do what I didn’t do. We need good strong men like this. Life is tough. Good to have great, strong men stand along side you just in case things get out of control.

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    1. Qassim

      Well said, Mr. Savage. I think most men have the same regret.

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      1. Sally Thanks

        We all have regrets. Mostly what we do not do instead of what we did and did wrong.

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  2. Veronica Stillman

    Another excellent article, thanks Gen. Satterfield. Yep, get used to cold showers, or if you get a shower at all. Some of us don’t. Go out into the wilderness for a couple of months and see.

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  3. Ernest

    Another article in a long series that tells us what we need to succeed in our lives and to be better leaders. The idea of selling ‘responsibility’ – what Gen. Satterfield is all over – is a tough sell but there is no alternative. I’m glad many of our regular readers are back in the comment forums. 😊😊😊😊😊

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    1. Dead Pool Guy

      Big fan of this leadership blog for a long time. You too Ernest.

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      1. Grover

        Many fans here. I’m happy to be counted in the fan club. 🙏

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  4. Harry Donner

    Either you are dangerous or not. Or, another way to say this is, Either you are strong and prepared or you are not. Yeah. Get ready. Don’t overspend and put yourself into debt. Crazy things happen and you’re screwed.

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  5. Winston

    Ouch, thanks Gen. Satterfield. Nailed it again. Keep these great articles coming our way. 👍

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    1. Bobby Joe

      Yep, exactly why I keep reading this blog. All the other leadership blogs want you to subscribe to something and get their services for a fee (of course). This one is for real.

      Reply
  6. Bryan Z. Lee

    Life is, indeed, tough. But it does take a little preparation, be prepared as the boy scouts say. If you need something today and you live in the USA, you expect the shelves in the stores to be fully stocked. But thanks to poor economic policies and progressive ideas, the federal govt. can’t see the solution. You are the problem, not them. All they want from you is a vote. Otherwise, take a hike.

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  7. Rusty D

    The U.S. is in the midst of a worsening baby formula shortage, and parents nationwide are struggling to get their kids the nutrition they need. What the heLL is going on here? Before it was toilet paper, now baby formula? What’s up. Thanks for those who are making comments on it. As a new dad, I can say that I’m most disappointed in the federal government making this situation WORSE.

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    1. Cow Blue

      Pow, got that right Rusty. We all know why there is a problem. It’s going to be two and half more years before we kick the geriatric out of the white house before this changes.

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      1. USA Patriot II

        The government is here to help. Ha hahahahhahahhahahha

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      2. Mr. T.J. Asper

        Why would you question the GOVERNMENT? What are you ? A commie? /sarc
        Thanks Cow Blue, great comment.

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  8. Lady Hawk

    The best people to have around you are strong, dangerous, stable men. Bar none. There is no substitute. Listen closely to what Gen. Satterfield is telling us. Amazing info.

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  9. JT Patterson

    “Those who properly direct their dangerous side, like the trained-professional Special Forces soldier who keeps his weapon ready, are capable of fending off evil and hazards.” Well said, Gen. Satterfield. Dangerous men, who have control over themselves are the best men to have around.

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  10. Rev. Michael Cain

    Yep, life is tough, so be prepared. Oh, thanks Gen. Satterfield for also highlighting the baby formula shortage in your Daily Favorites. The Biden administration is now shipping pallet loads to the border for illegal immigrant women while we have a severe shortage elsewhere. Go figure. Scandal? Of course. Will you hear about it? Nope.

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    1. Otto Z. Zuckermann

      Rev Cain, pray for our country. With Pres Biden in charge, all the evil is coming back.

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    2. Yusaf from Texas

      Biden, aka Brandon, doesn’t even know what day it is much less being president. He is evil, I agree, but who is really in charge?

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      1. Gilley the Brother

        It certainly ain’t VP Kamala Harris, she’s so dumb even her lovers threw her out. And I guess the horizon position does get women into high places. You know, all that equal rights stuff. Ha.

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        1. Seriously Sean

          She deserves to be in a nuthouse. Biden needs to be in a home.

          Reply

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