[February 3, 2020] “I could kick myself.” The college Dean was telling his department about how she had failed to prepare her students because she had been unprepared to teach properly. I’m shocked that a college dean, with a PhD and decades of experience, could be so down on herself that it drove her into personal depression.
Leaders, stop being so pathetic! Yes, our victimhood-aggrandizing culture pushes the inexperienced, weak, self-questioning person into a lonely dependence upon others. That is not a good thing. So, snap out of it.
“The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight but has no vision.” – Helen Keller, American author and political activist, blind and deaf
It’s not okay to be weak and a loser because, by doing so, you will allow all the potential you have to go to waste and not benefit others. Leaders should turn around to face the world and their fears. If they do, then all is better than what they might think. You are stronger than you think.
Here are some simple suggestions on HOW to stop being so pathetic:
- Stand up straight, look forward, shoulders back, and walk erect.
- Smile, look people in the eye and give a firm handshake.
- Talk clearly and precisely, don’t try to “win” the conversation but get your point across.
- Be as truthful as you can.
- Avoid deceitfulness, manipulation, and malevolence.
- Avoid bitterness by setting your goals on keeping yourself neat, clean, and organized.
- Avoid victimhood and revenge; otherwise, you will miss the great adventures in your life.
- Adopt responsibility for yourself, your family, your community, and your nation.
- Read more, make time for reading, be selective in what you read, but do it every day and make it a part of your life to become better informed.
There is a simple message here. Don’t pursue happiness. Don’t pursue it because happiness is fleeting and temporary. Pursue something much more meaningful and more profound. Pursue responsibility, the most responsibility that you can hold onto without being crushed. Happiness will appear during this journey; embrace it when you can but do not hold on too long.