[June 1, 2022] Don’t make excuses. No excuses. If you have an obligation, have given your word, or there is an expectation you are to do something, there is no excuse for failing at the goal. Those that make excuses have failed twice, first not getting done what they were supposed to get done, and second, they are telling us that they were not ready when they should have been ready.
“The dog ate my homework.” – Anonymous school kid
It doesn’t make a difference if I believe your excuse. It doesn’t matter if your dog really did eat your homework. It’s irrelevant if you don’t have the time (a matter of priorities) or if you forgot (a sign of naïveté). I believe you. It’s just that I don’t care about your excuses for not doing what you need to do. And, please don’t blame someone else or something else. I can see those obstacles because I have the same ones.
The Boy Scouts have it right, ‘be prepared.’ That means having a vision of what you want to accomplish and planning accordingly. Have a backup plan too (a sign of experience and maturity). Ever see people who are always early to a meeting? They consider the little obstacles in life that get in their way to the meeting and figure out that by departing early to the meeting, they can still be held up by an obstacle and yet arrive on time. That is a skill we should all consider.
Making excuses helps keep you stuck in the same old ways. Excuses give us reasons to explain to ourselves that we aren’t good enough. Ouch! We all have wishes and dreams. We all have good ‘intent’ to get the job done. However, the reality is that making excuses puts you in the way of your goals; excuses are an easy out.
Excuses keep us in limbo, not getting what we want or becoming who we could be. It takes a lot of work, proper planning, hard work, being honest to yourself (and others), and the guts not to let the obstacles in life get in your way. That’s how you can reject those excuses that are holding you back.
Take ownership of your own life. Never make excuses. Others can see why you failed. Stop whining about it. Complaining only shows you are inadequate. Grit your teeth and move out. Oh, and never ever ever accept failure or defeat.
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