[March 19, 2021] In yesterday’s article, I wrote about a brewing but hidden crisis in America. This crisis is the flabby, cowardly, cynical American men who are failing at their societal roles. While many deny the problem, it is self-evident that men and young boys are no longer preparing for responsible manhood.
What can we do about the manhood problem that sees males reject spouses and their families, commit violent crimes, and fail to support or protect our community or nation?
Remember one of John Wayne’s most famous quotes, “Life is hard; it’s harder if you’re stupid.” Let us, men, stop being stupid.
The West is undergoing an unprecedented cultural change. We see significant technological creativity that has made our lives easier and given us greater leisure time. Furthermore, we are vastly richer economically and possess a social net that even our poorest citizens are more prosperous than the kings of the past.
An idea that says that men and boys are socialized into a masculine role that encourages aggression and violence is wrong on its face. Civilized behavior is difficult. It is the integration (reduction of) aggression that is learned. And, it is primarily men who teach it, particularly to aggressive boys.1
The evidence is indisputable. Fatherless boys are violent. How can it be that masculine socialization produces harm when the data clearly shows the opposite? Boys who have no father at home are over-represented as alcoholics, addicts, gang members, prisoners, rapists, and murderers.
Here are a few things that men and young boys can do. Accept responsibility, be courageous, invest in their family, and reject the new world’s view that all men are brooding, brutish, knuckle-dragging Neanderthals. The war on men and boys is real and is being waged at multiple levels in America.
Those who fail to see the evidence of the advantage of preparing for manhood are ideologically driven and ethically reprehensible. As responsible members of our communities, we should encourage the teaching of the ways of strong, independent, stable men.