[May 3, 2022] Find a substitute for alcohol and drugs, and never smoke anything. Reject their use. Ask where you will be in 5 years and find your adventure.
Instead of starting with the obvious advice that you should avoid alcohol, drugs, and smoking or quit if you are using, I will begin with an important question. What benefits do we get from indulging in these drugs (alcohol, drugs, and smoking)? Especially alcohol, how can we avoid something that has become so commonplace and acceptable, encouraged, and a mark of high fashion?
We might ask first why do people use drugs? If you use them, the question is “stupid:” because the answer is in front of you. Using drugs is fun and chic and exciting.
The problem is that drug use has negative consequences. Use is terrible for your health and especially if you abuse them and allow them to motivate your behavior. Drugs destroy you on every front; terrible hangovers, failed relationships, lost jobs, trouble with the law, destroyed motivation, and cancer or liver disease. You are likely to suffer greatly and die prematurely. It screws up your life.
And these drugs will prevent you from learning those skills you need to have in social circumstances. Taking drugs will make the bad things in our life for worse. Interestingly, drugs will destroy between 5 and 10 percent of the population.
A better question to ask ourselves is, what in our life is better than alcohol, drugs, and smoking? We need a meaningful alternative to drugs, a better substitute. One could be your need to discover what is in your life that is worth not having bad health and premature death.
Lay out for yourself those disadvantages of drug use, be honest about them, and then when you see what will happen if you continue down that path, the choice becomes more apparent. So, what is better? That better choice can be a meaningful adventure, the instinctive need to live on the edge and discover the unknown. Replace expedient drug use with something more adventurous that serves you better, then the choice of not using drugs will be easier.
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