[July 14, 2022] Inevitably, there are tragedies in life. They are unavoidable; the death of a loved one, terminal cancer, serious injury, etc. As free human beings, we have two primary choices in the face of tragedy. One is the nihilist, who would believe there is nothing to do but accept a world destined for destruction. The other is to be the most dependable person for others to help settle the tragedy.
To be the most dependable person is to call forth inner strength and be someone to whom others gravitate in adverse times. Humans have been dealing with loss and death forever. We are descendants of those who could manage it. The capacity to overcome the tragedy is within us, grim as our task might seem.
If we are truly good family members during a tragedy, it would seem a form of betrayal to stand firm, remain healthy, and be dependable. It might appear that proof of our love and admiration of a loss would dictate we are shallow or that our bond was weak and temporary, that our loss is easily replaceable. Should the tragedy not destroy us?
According to those who study death, it is most common that those on their deathbeds are troubled by their immediate uselessness and the burden they cause on their loved ones. Such is the way of our lives, and as such, it makes the loss that much more heart-rending. To be the one who fails in the face of tragedy is a form of betrayal of the person who has died or is seriously ill. The better approach is to pay tribute to those lost to death and illness.
It takes someone strong to step in and exercise the necessary authority that makes the tragedy something to face and overcome. It follows that we each have a moral obligation under such tragic circumstances to demonstrate strength. That means we should face tragedy forthrightly and with power.
To express our strength at such a time of tragedy, to be the most dependable person, to be solid and steadfast, to be the one others can depend on, is the way to make a bad situation less dreadful. Courage and nobility in the face of tragedy are what is necessary. In this way, we honor those who are experiencing tragedy.
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