[December 14, 2022] Finding someone in your life who can push you to your limits, someone who you can contend with and help you be a better person, is a true adventure. If you find that person, hold onto them because they will make you more than you ever thought possible. If you can also find someone you can love and respect and contend with, then that is a great combination.
Finding a spouse you can love, respect, and communicate with, and then your children can also love and respect them, is the noblest, ethical goal. This solidifies your life, and if you have a great job and good friends that challenge you, that is how you can have a life worth the struggles.
If we can find relationships that push us to our limits in a good way, we all need to be pushed to go beyond who we are. If you can be tested, voluntarily and with the right person, and then pushed properly and forthrightly, then you can have a sense of triumph. You are now more than you were or could ever be without that other person.
What is more extraordinary adventure there in life? The ancients discovered this long ago; you have a moral obligation to be more than you are. It’s a deep biological need that can only be fulfilled with others in your life. Being a loner or non-social is certainly not the optimal mode of being. Being alone is the sure route to long-term failure.
I’ll end this article with a quote that reinforces my point:
“During [U.S. Marine Corps] Basic, sometimes you’re so tired you can’t even get up to piss. You’re pushed beyond whatever limits you had set for yourself. You realize that your body can do things that you never imagined. But there are times when you don’t think you can go on, and that’s when your brother is there to lift you up and push you forward. He yells encouragement when the drill sergeant’s yelling obscenities. You know that if you’re ever caught by the enemy, your brothers will never stop looking for you. If you’re hurt they’ll help heal you. The Corps is a unit of many, not one, but dozens, thousands even, who have your back. You can smite one Marine, but a thousand will rose up to avenge him. — Author, Jen Frederick
Find that someone to push you to your limits and beyond. And never let that person go.
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Loved the quote. 😊
This article is exactly what I would expect from a military veteran like Gen. Satterfield. We must all take that cue and know that others can make us better, even our enemies can make us better.
Good point, Obama Cash. Thanks.
General Satterfield has once again given us something to think about. If you don’t understand what he means, then I highly recommend you read this blog for a few weeks and you will see that you can indeed be a much better person.
One of the reasons I joined the US Army was because of veterans in my town who would how me how to fight and protect myself, but more importantly how to protect those who could not defend themselves. They told me that defending the defenseless and the weak was my moral calling. It is everyone’s moral calling. It’s just that most of us have lost the way of our ancestors. I have not lost that and I am better as a human for it.
Merry Christmas to all my good Christian friends.
Thank you Ayn.
Yes, thanks Ayn Jalut.
This says that marriage is the ultimate in human expression. Never ever forget it.
“Finding someone in your life who can push you to your limits, someone who you can contend with and help you be a better person, is a true adventure. If you find that person, hold onto them because they will make you more than you ever thought possible. If you can also find someone you can love and respect and contend with, then that is a great combination.” – Gen. Doug Satterfield
There is much to unpack in that statement by Gen. Satterfield and I agree with you Pen Q that marriage plus children is the ultimate in human expression. Note I added “plus children”. And while some women cannot conceive, that is an unfortunate circumstance because having children is the pinnacle of being a woman.
I’m with you on that one Lady Hawk. And this is indeed a wonderful website. Oh, an early Merry Christmas to all who are here.
Loved the quote.
Congrats Emma. We are on this journey together so might as well be good at it.
Thanks 76 Wife.
I’m one of those “old timers” who have been an avid reader of Gen. Satterfield’s blog. Have done so now for many years and I can say that I’ve personally grown a lot during that time and I have learned how to help others, explore and deepen my arguments in my favor, and learned how to adopt responsibility (and tell the truth). That is what being human is all about. Getting better all the time.
Don’t ya just love this blog?
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Hi folks, you gotta read this article in yesterday’s NY Post. Says alot about Pres Biden’s administration. Hint, he hires crazies.
https://nypost.com/2022/12/13/bidens-return-to-normalcy-brought-us-crazy-instead-like-sam-brinton/
Did you expect anything else from the most corrupt politician in American history? Maybe not the MOST corrupt because there is Nancy Pelosi and Barack Hussein Obama who all made themselves rich while in political office.
Another fabulous article from the mind of The General. And we are fortunate to have him here to read and enjoy and learn from. As everyone who is a regular reader knows, I’ve been one of the longest here in this leadership forum. I hope Gen. Satterfield continues this tradition and writes many more books.
Push you to your limits, AND BEYOND. Reminds me of a kids cartoon but that would be verbotten today to imply that we can be MORE than we could be.
Right! Today’s youth are told they can be anything they want to be as long as it’s a LGBTQI+ variant and must be compliant to any Democrat talking point of the day. They are modern mental slaves. No wonder they cannot have a good life.
Aussie, right and if you want to know what the “good life” is about, then get a copy of the General’s newest book “55 Rules for a Good Life” and enjoy the book and then enjoy your life. It’s simple but hard to implement and Gen. Satterfield admits that right up front. Nothing good is easy.
Yes, great points all. ✔
Thanks Yusaf. Just another observant person working to make life better for others. Selfless is the name of the game. 👀
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