[July 1, 2022] You don’t want to be too aggressive, too assertive; you want to take a back seat and not make any waves. Wrong; for men, this is how you can ruin your life. Good men must be a Lion among men. If you want to be in a healthy relationship, sometimes you must be uncomfortable and willing to be sad, angry, or disappointed.
A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very dangerous man who has his aggression/emotions/strength under voluntary control. We are told, “Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the Earth.” – Matthew 5:5. The proper interpretation of “meek” is a person who carries a sword and knows how to use it expertly, but keeps it sheathed. He walks knowing that no one can harm him or those around him without proper retribution. This is why he is a dangerous man.
Being too nice can get you into trouble. It can even stop you from finding true love or inventing something you believe in. Being too nice ruins your life and relationships because you are weak, and women do not like weak men. Yet, being nice is something we are taught all our lives, especially in school. Some say that is why young boys do not do as well in a modern classroom environment.
Being nice can prevent you from getting those things you need as an adult, like earning a salary commensurate with your skills and abilities or love or doing good things. Often, couples have problems from being too nice. They store things up in themselves and don’t get angry, sad, or disappointed. Then, one day, it all comes apart.
This is why they say that nice guys finish last. And, yes, that is true.
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