[August 11, 2026]. In a recent video titled “Everyone Sees It But the Left – The Strong & Independent Women Are A Mess,” content creator Better Bachelor lays out a straightforward observation that has been building for years; feminism has not been kind to women. In fact, it’s been a disaster.
Mainstream outlets that once ignored or mocked men’s complaints are now admitting the same problems. Fox News, USA Today, The Federalist, and others are publishing pieces about anti-marriage culture, “heteropessimism,” and the growing unhappiness of single women.
The core claim is simple: decades of feminist messaging that painted men as the enemy, marriage as optional or oppressive, and female independence as the highest good have produced predictable results. Women are more educated and career-focused than ever, yet many are lonelier, less partnered, less fulfilled, and less mentally stable. Men, tired of the hostility and the one-sided risks, are walking away.
Better Bachelor walks through several recent articles. One from Fox News notes a rising wave of anti-male sentiment fueled by TikTok trends, celebrity divorce celebrations, and books that reduce husbands to either incompetent “man-babies” or toxic patriarchs. A USA Today column by Ingrid Jacques describes “heteropessimism”—women’s growing disappointment and antagonism toward relationships with men.
Studies cited in these pieces show married women tend to be happier, live longer, and even earn more than their single counterparts. Yet the cultural products aimed at young women keep reinforcing the opposite message: men are the problem, singlehood is empowerment, and divorce is a glow-up.
He also references a Federalist piece arguing that feminism created an “insufferable class of supposedly infallible females.” Decades of media and advertising portrayed women as inherently competent and men as bumbling. Hiring preferences and lowered standards in some fields reinforced the idea that the sexes are interchangeable.
The result, according to these articles, is a generation of women shielded from criticism, convinced of their moral superiority, and entitled to a partner who meets an ever-rising bar while offering little in return. That is a horrible message.
The practical consequences are measurable. Marriage rates have fallen. Birth rates sit well below replacement. Young men are delaying or forgoing marriage because the incentives no longer make sense. Divorce courts, child support formulas, and cultural narratives that treat male commitment as a trap while celebrating female exit have taught men a clear lesson: the upside is limited and the downside is severe.
Better Bachelor points out that men do not march or protest. They simply stop participating. They invest in careers, friendships, hobbies, and sometimes pets. Some keep casual relationships. Fewer sign up for the full package of marriage and children when the cultural and legal environment treats them as disposable.
Meanwhile, many of the “strong and independent” women still seek male attention and validation. They participate in hookup culture, then express frustration when the available men are the ones willing to play that game rather than the stable providers they claim to want later. The video notes the irony: after years of messaging that men are unnecessary, women still need male regard, resources, and partnership, yet have spent years signaling that men are the problem. The men who internalize that message respond rationally by limiting exposure.
This is not an abstract theory. Family formation is the foundation of stable societies. Children do better with two committed biological parents. Communities with high rates of single motherhood face higher poverty, crime, and social dysfunction.
When large numbers of young adults opt out of marriage and childbearing, the long-term costs land on everyone; through strained social systems, aging populations without enough workers, and the loneliness that surveys keep documenting among young women. Celebrating “eat, pray, love” independence or framing marriage as legalized slavery (as some celebrities have done) does not change the data on outcomes.
Feminism’s later waves deserve the criticism they are finally receiving. Early efforts to expand legal equality and opportunity were legitimate. What followed—hostility to traditional roles, the elevation of grievance over responsibility, and the refusal to acknowledge biological and psychological differences between the sexes—has been destructive.
It told women that domestic life and motherhood were lesser paths. It told men that their natural protectiveness and provision were suspect. It treated family as a patriarchal construct rather than the primary human institution that produces the next generation and transmits culture. The result is not liberation for most people. It is delayed adulthood, higher rates of anxiety and depression among young women, and a generation of men who see little reason to invest heavily in relationships that society treats as optional for one side and obligatory for the other.
None of this requires hating women or denying individual choice. Plenty of women thrive outside traditional marriage. Plenty of men prefer bachelor life. The problem is the cultural campaign that treated family formation itself as the enemy and then acted surprised when the numbers collapsed.
Pro-family arguments are not nostalgia. They are recognition that most people still want connection, children, and stability, and that societies which make those goals harder end up poorer and less cohesive.
Better Bachelor’s video is blunt, sometimes crude, and unapologetically from the male perspective. That is part of its value. For years, pointing out these patterns got men labeled toxic or reactionary. Now the same observations appear in outlets that once ignored them.
The ideological Left still mostly pretends the problem is insufficient feminism rather than its excesses. Everyone else can see the mess: rising numbers of educated, career-successful women who are single, childless, and dissatisfied, alongside men who have rationally reduced their participation in a market stacked against them.
The fix is not complicated in principle. Stop treating marriage and family as oppressive. Stop shaming men for wanting reciprocity and respect. Stop selling young women the idea that independence means rejecting the very relationships that most humans find meaningful.
Culture, law, and incentives shape behavior. When those signals reward commitment and mutual responsibility instead of grievance and exit, more people will choose the harder, better path of building families. Until then, the data will keep confirming what ordinary people already see.
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What? The “boss babes” are losers? We were told we are superior to everybody. What could go wrong?
/sarcasm for sure ……. Colleen, you got it right here with your humor. Women were tricked into working for Da Man in a corporate office, given lots and lots of “status”. And now, here they are, no kids, a cat, a box of wine, and an ex-husband who she filed for the divorce because she had to find herself. Now she has found herself and she has become exactly what she does not want. Should I laugh? Nope. Women who are the boss babes tricked themselves.