[October 22, 2025] I’ve highlighted Dewayne Noel of Dry Creek Wrangler School before, and folks seem to appreciate his down-to-earth, philosophical style. In another video, he starts by telling a story about visiting his grandmother in Kentucky and learning a valuable life lesson: how the struggle shapes you. In this episode, he says that sometimes we have to let people hit the wall to wake them up.
“When I was a little kid, we lived in Kentucky. We used to go visit my grandparents there. Both lived on just a little Kentucky farm there, and on the farm, my dad’s mom – Granny, we called her Granny – would get layer eggs and have them in the living room. And, she’d have a big cardboard box with shavings in the bottom and a heat lamp. We’d come through the living room and check those eggs, and we’d check the eggs, and after a while, one would start moving a little bit. You look, and there’d be a little flake that would start. That first little baby chick would start finding its way out. Well, there was a hard and fast rule: when they started hatching, you didn’t touch them, and it was hard not to touch them. You wanted to reach out and just take a fingernail – cause it’s struggling, cracking that egg – it’d take a while for that chick to make it out. You’d wanna flick a little shell back and just kind of help, but you didn’t do that. Because if you helped that baby chick out of the egg, it would die; it wouldn’t survive. The struggle to get out of the egg is what got its blood flowing, it’s what got its muscles working, it’s what it would have the strength then to continue on. But if you peeled the egg away from it, it’d just likely die.” – Dewany Noel
Sometimes, helping can do more harm than good. One of the hardest lessons to learn growing up is knowing when to help someone and when to let them fail on their own. Sometimes, trying to help isn’t actually helping. Sometimes, kindness can be the worst thing you can give someone.
One question we must ask ourselves is, “Am I helping this person because they need the help, or am I trying to help them because it makes me feel bad to see the struggle?” In other words, I’d be helping them, not to help them.
As Dewayne points out, there are people in life who need comfort, those who need help, and others who just need a quick kick in the pants. Many simply need to be told to stop complaining, whining, and bellyaching, get up, and move on. It’s not always easy to tell which ones need this advice, especially for a parent raising children.
Great parents learn that children must know you’re there for them, but they also need to learn to fly and leave the nest. Sometimes, we have to let those kids who won’t leave just hit the wall. We don’t want to see them crash, and we would do anything to prevent it. But putting a Band-Aid on every scrape isn’t a long-term solution.
The reality of life is that sometimes you have to let someone hit the wall because that’s the only way they’ll learn. That’s the only way they’ll figure out life. Eventually, you have to let go.
Some people don’t need help. Some people just need people to stop helping them.
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Dewayne hits on several important topics in this presentation that Gen. Satterfield has highlighted. I won’t go into them but instead what I willl do is ask that anyone who wants to find out more on the subject of learning how to me a mature adult, then do the research and one technique is go listen to Dewayne on his youtube channel. That is a way to hear him directly as he describes how to improve yourself. Remember the “rule” that Gen. Satterfield has written about many times, “Be all you can be, be more than you can ever be.” That is what you should be thinking about.
Jus t don’t hit the wall. 😁
“Some people don’t need help. Some people just need people to stop helping them.” – Gen. Doug Satterfield gets it.
Just as Gen. Satterfield has pointed out, repeatedly, there must come a time in the life of the young when they are pushed out of the nest. Just like the small immature bird who must leave the mother’s nest. Either fly or be eaten by ground dwellers. This is the way of life. Humans, fortunately, will not die from leaving home but they may struggle and that is scary. Some will have to hit the wall and fall down until they gain the willpower to standup and be strong. It is a moral necessity.
Well said, Good Dog. And I like your name.🐕
Great article. “Let them hit the wall,” and let God sort them out. Ouch, I didn’t mean that last part.
Dewayne begins with a story and ties that story of his Gramma with his advice to those raising children. Spot on!!!!!
Don’t ya just love Dewayne? This is the kind of personal philosophy that we all need to learn. But in schools today, the kids learn about pronouns and are entertained by drag queens and pedos. Our teachers today need to be fired and barred forever from being around little kids.
Just too many of our youth need this desperately . 🙏
“Great parents learn that children must know you’re there for them, but they also need to learn to fly and leave the nest.” – Gen. Doug Satterfield. Making it real for us.
This is the other article about Dewayne and a good one, too!! 😱
“5 Habits to Become a Strong Man”
https://www.theleadermaker.com/5-habits-to-become-a-strong-man/
Dewayne discusses the unfortunate fact that so many young men are lost because they’ve been sold a bill of goods and they haven’t been prepared for life. These young men are starting to wake up and many have been asking Dewayne for some advice. Here are 5 habits young men can adopt in their lives to become the men that they need to be and the world needs them to be.
Thanks, The Kid. Good research. LOL.
Forrest and The Kid, and thanks for you guys on the recognition of Dewayne and his good common sense. He does practice what he preaches and is a regular on YouTube to give advice to young folks. While his advice does apply to everyone, it is most valuable for young teenagers, just my opinon. But let’s not forget that to listen to him is easy (good stuff) but to implement his ideas is something totally different. Let’s not forget that it requires sacrifice of things we might just like/love to reach a state of harmony with ourselves and others.
Dewayne is a good man. And smart.