The Nose Ring Theory: Asmongold TV

[November 2, 2025]  Here I am, minding my own business, checking out with a dozen bagels when a young woman behind me appears with a nose ring.  Automatically, I think of her as a whacko, mindless, nasty person.  Was I stereotyping her?  Yes.  The stereotype was correct and her subsequent actions proved it.  I was following what is known today as the Nose Ring Theory.

I went to social media to get an explanation and found several channels that addressed this Nose Ring Theory.  One was Asmongold TV on YouTube.  He does a great job of familiarizing his fans what the heck this theory is about.  The video he posted just two months ago, now has 1.7 million views [as of the date of this article].

Early in his video, he shows a video of a woman who comments about her nose ring ‘preventing her from getting dates.’

“So, I’m 24 years old and I have been trying my hand at dating men, specifically, for probably about five, six years now.  In a serious way.  I’m single at the moment.  My boyfriend and I just broke up recently and I have probably dated about four to five men.  Seriously, keep running into the same issues every single time I date a man.  And I’ve been trying to like to really get to the root of what it is.  And now, I know what you’re thinking.  You probably have a type [of man].  I do not have a type [of man to date].  I’ve been reflecting a lot and trying to figure out what the root of all these issues is.  Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not the reason that any of these [failed relationships]. One of the main issues that I’ve come to recognize is that I don’t think men are really socialized to know what it means to truly love someone. These men individually has looked me in the eyes and told me that I am the love of their life.  I’m the most important person in their life.  Yeah.  And every single one of them have treated me horribly.”  –  a young woman with a nose piercing. [This video lasted about 2 minutes but it felt much longer.  Ahhhh.]

In the video, this young woman is describing her troubles with finding a good man.  She insists that she doesn’t have a type, that these men have nothing in common, but for some reason in the end, they always end up treating her horribly.  I think most of us have already figured out that this young woman is the common denominator and we can reasonably speculate that she is the problem.

It is now easy for folks to start to look at this young woman and theorize – because the nose ring is most noticeable – that her failures with men might be her attracting similar men, despite her comments otherwise.  And, the fact that this woman has piercings in her face might have something to do with how she is treated by others.

The nose ring theory says that every person that has a septum piercing makes their trauma their entire personality.  Is this true?  We can see that in the video (see the link above), the young woman is making her relationship trauma, her entire personality.  Do these people attract chaos?  It sure seems so.

In the Journal of Public Health Research, a December 2017 article “Self-esteem, propensity for sensation seeking, and risk behavior among adults with tattoos and piercings” goes into how these same adults are perceived and who they attract.  The study indicates that those with piercings were higher in sensation seeking and risk taking.

In another study, “Large Tattoos and Personality: which Women are at Risk,” shows that people with piercings and tattoos, specifically women, score significantly higher for extroversion and assertiveness, meaning they are more aggressive.  And this causes them problems in relationships with men.

There is also the perception that these people are more sexually promiscuous and tend to attract others who are looking for casual relationships rather than serious ones.  This correlates with impulsivity and more experience with trauma and adversity.  There is a strong correlation between body modifications and people who experience childhood abuse and neglect.  One study found a notable prevalence of individuals with a high number of body modifications and borderline personality disorder.

In this case, with this young woman, it looks like the stereotype worked.  She was describing her issues with relationships with men.  We know that men, at least initially, found her attractive.  Clearly, this young woman was the problem in relationships and now we can see it with the nose piercing.  Stereotype?  Yes.  Accurate?  Yes.  Certainly, this is not always the case but it is very common.

Do people with piercings and tattoos tend to be more rebellious, chaotic, and traumatized?  Yes.  Not all.  But certainly enough of them to establish a clear pattern.  Men call piercings and tattoos “red flags” and for those dating women like this, they have been warned.

Asmonold TV is a crazy guy but funny and smart.  I recommend his channel for more humor.

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