[November 18, 2022] I see in many men a resentful attitude toward women. These men blame their despair for not finding a woman because women won’t have anything to do with them, while the women are making those men self-conscious for not being all they should be. The women think, “Why should I bother with you if you’re not good enough?” And that is precisely what women should be thinking. Women chose men!
Men don’t like this unalterable fact; that women choose men. They want women to like them despite their failures in life. Furthermore, men don’t understand this natural phenomenon.
Why can’t so many men find women to date? That’s not the real problem. The real problem is why certain men can’t find the women they want. The underlying fact is that it is the man’s problem, not the woman’s problem. Men are just not measuring up to women’s standards. Psychologists tell men who are irritated at men’s problems (to find women) that there is something wrong with the man.
Women pick men. If they don’t pick a certain man, then it’s because they are right. That is, admittedly, a terrible thing to note for men, and I know it perfectly well. I wasn’t particularly successful with women myself when I was young. I know what rejection is like and the fear of inadequacy
What do these men expect from women? If you got pregnant because you had sex, you would be damn choosy too. Men! Clue in a bit. If women don’t find you attractive, then maybe you’re not. Have you paid attention to how you dress? Do you have a life plan? Are you as educated as you could be? Are you a liar? Are you a pornographer user? Are you an alcoholic or abuse drugs? Maybe these things undermine your motivation and why you are not growing yourself up.
If a man is rejected constantly, is he asking enough women out? Is he batting out of his league (so to speak) and setting himself up for certain failure?
If men were better, they would be more successful with women. Men need to keep that in mind. And men cannot be angry at women for rejecting them. That’s stupid. This would be a sign of psychological dysfunction in men.
Who is more self-conscious, women or men? The answer is that women are more self-conscious. Moreover, women taught men to be self-conscious, and they teach them that all the time because there is nothing that makes a man more self-conscious than to be rejected by a woman he desires.
If you look at any competence hierarchy, it is a fact that the men at the top of the hierarchy are more likely to have offspring than the men at the bottom. That is true not just in humans but in many other animal species. Something pushes a man up a dominance hierarchy. The idea of how the proper man should act starts to become incorporated into society’s expectations.
That process begins to loop, so as the expectations become clearer and clearer, the notion of what constitutes the success of men with women becomes clearer as well. The same skills and attitudes, and patterns of behavior that make a man successful in climbing a dominance hierarchy are the same that make men attractive to women. They are the same thing.
Women chose men. And that is the way it is now, always has been, and always will be.
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