[November 25, 2025] Used to living open lives, the best leaders know the unremitting fact that people will see their weaknesses … and people will also comment on those weaknesses. While this may come as a surprise, the passion of the commentators is a twist that strikes leaders like a bolt from the blue.
Leaders must know and have some level of comfort with the reality that people will see your weaknesses, remark on them, and vocally pass critical judgment.
We’ve been told all our lives that “no one is perfect” and that “we all make mistakes.” Such is the outgrowth of human beings and their flaws – their weaknesses. And, knowing this, leaders should be mindful of their criticism of the weaknesses of others.
There is a fine line between a leader who can be confident in their position and one who is conceited. The best leaders take great care in their own statements about the weaknesses of others and instill in themselves a sense of respect for others.
How does a leader deal with the fact that others see their weaknesses and are vocal about them? First, it is a good idea to know your own weaknesses. This means also having done something about them. It’s pretty clear that if a leader does not know their own weaknesses, then that leader will also not be clear on their strengths and the value of that leader will be questionable.
Second, the leader needs to be completely honest about those weaknesses. Some say that it is best to have a large dose of humility. One of the best leaders I knew used his weaknesses and mistakes in a humorous way to help get himself liked and respected. He became one of the boys, so to speak.
Hiding or denying weaknesses, as well as attempting to justify them are big mistakes. Weaknesses cannot be hidden. By not being open the leader exposes himself to justifiable ridicule.
Leadership at any level means people see you. Expect them to see everything you do; both at work and in your private life. To assume a weakness or mistake can be hidden is unrealistic and can be counterproductive. Use weaknesses to advance your relationships with others and improve on that weakness.
Remember that someone trying to improve themselves will always garner some level of respect.
The lesson is not to be too amazed by this. Surprisingly, folks continue to be caught off guard. Be aware of your weaknesses, know your boundaries, and be sure you are not suffering from a case of hubris.
————
Please read my books:
Weakness cannot be hidden. Great point, Gen. Satterfield. Here is the text from Gen. S on this very issue and spot-on.
“Hiding or denying weaknesses, as well as attempting to justify them are big mistakes. Weaknesses cannot be hidden. By not being open the leader exposes himself to justifiable ridicule.”
We surely can see that by admitting our mistakes, showing everyone that we learned from it and have moved on, is really the crux of being a good person. This means we accept the accountability of our actions and will continue to be responsible for what we do and what we do not do.
JT, as usual, u are correct. Weaknesses will not be hidden. I think that is why the Bible calls for us to be humble in our dealings with others. Our weaknesses, no matter how trivial will be exposed for all to see, and for all to mock if we deserve mocking.
This is why, IMHO, that Humility means so much as a personal strategy to do good and be good.
“Get used to cold showers, life is tough.” — Gen. Doug Satterfield
https://www.theleadermaker.com/get-used-to-cold-showers-life-is-tough/
This is one of the “rules” and found here on his website. The quote is one of those that make me smile. While the world is tough, so can life be. And the weak, effete young of today get “triggered” over the wrong pronouns. HA HA HA HA HA
This is classic Gen. Satterfield style of showing us what a leader must do and what one must not do. This is what initially hooked me onto his leadership website, and has kept me here. I will recommend to everyone to get a copy of his latest book, “55 Rules for a Good Life.” I know what you are all thinking, “Oh no, another self-help book.” Well, okay, you got me there. But the book actually brings into focus all those older and yet repeatedly proven “rules” or guidelines for having a proper and successful life. It’s kind of a stoic-of-flavor that allows us men to better understand it and relate. For all the new readers here, get yourself motivated, read this book, and implement his advice by laying out 55 rules. For those paying attention, he is adding more ‘rules.” We’re up to Rule# 59, so far. Good for us.
Andre, exactly right!!!!!!! I got the book, and like so many others, I’ve actually given several away. The book is inexpensive, about $10 bucks and well worth it. Get your copy. And please please please leave a review on Amazon. Thanks you all.
Right, Jake. My fav leadership site.
… plus shipping and tax but still worth it.
Weakness and cowardice, those are descriptive of the modern man.
Be humble.
Be kind.
Act as if you are exposed openly to the world, and you may not be liked but you will be seen as a person who is honest and that is what we like.