Advice for Young Men: the Good Men Project

By | April 17, 2024

[April 17, 2024]   We are introduced to “The Good Men Project” with the subhead “The conversation no one else is having.”  In a piece titled “20 Pieces of Advice for Men in Their 20x”, author Peter Ross provides some much-needed advice taken from men’s experiences to help men not waste a critical decade in their twenties.

  1. Don’t Settle: Don’t be afraid to keep trying things until you find something that gels with you. When people settle, they tend to fall into a rut they can’t escape.  It also means you’re doing something you don’t want to do, so you don’t take opportunities to grow or improve.
  2. Be Your Own Person: Being comfortable in your own skin and having your own mind is much rarer than you might think and is incredibly liberating.
  3. Realize that Hardship is Good: Tough times don’t last, but tough people do. If you can learn to be emotionally resilient, make the best of a bad time, and not give up, you’ll have something that will serve you well your entire life – the ability to overcome hardship.
  4. Learn How to Learn: Learning is generally pretty haphazard for most people because (ironically) they weren’t taught how to learn in school. They just listened to the teacher and did what they were told, and that was it.  What comes next?    Mastery is a big deal.  When you master things and become a subject matter expert, you usually level up your career and start looking at serious money and good working conditions.
  5. Your Attitude is Crucial: After High School, some people went to college, some dropped out, and then went from job to job. Despite this, they ended up extremely successful.  The common factor was a great attitude and work ethic.  If you act like a typical entitled twentysomething and go from job to job, always bitching about how you aren’t getting anywhere or that no one listens to you, you’ll end up somewhere shitty in your 30s.
  6. Chase Experiences: Experiences make life worth living, not material things. If you have things you want to do or try, get out and do them!  Your 20s is the time because you aren’t tied down with a spouse and kids.
  7. Go on a Hero’s Journey: Also known as a rite of passage before we urbanized a few thousand years ago. Mine was joining the army.  I grew about 20 years in maturity in my six years there.  I was pushed to my limits many times, and I learned and experienced things most of the population would never have a clue about.  If you can do a gap year program like the Army, absolutely give it a shot.  If not, find some adventure and go on it.
  8. Read a Lot of Books: Have you ever heard the phrase “standing on the shoulders of giants”? That’s what you do when you read books.  In any area of interest, there are thousands of books out there to help you gain more knowledge and expertise.  Don’t waste all your spare time watching TV and playing games; spend some time feeding your mind.  You will learn so much from books that you won’t learn elsewhere, and most successful people you speak to will be avid readers.
  9. Learn How to Build Relationships: Contrary to what you might think, career success isn’t just about your skills and qualifications. Your ability to build quality relationships by talking to people is far more critical.  Despite what you may think, you are most likely not an introvert; you need more practice at socializing because it is a skill just like anything else.  No one is becoming successful by being someone who can’t talk to others.
  10. Be Smart with Your Money: You don’t have to buy a house in your 20s, but you need to save as much money as possible. Cut back on the partying a touch and use that extra money you haven’t spent to…
  11. Invest: This goes with number 5. Start investing as soon as possible in your 20s, even if it’s a small amount because the magic of compound interest means the amount will grow bigger as you get older.  When investing, the best time to start is as early as possible, so do it now.
  12. Choose Your Friends Wisely: A significant saying is, “You are the average of the people you spend the most time around.” Think about what your relationships are doing for you at the moment.  To be rich, you must spend your time around wealthy people and others who want to be rich.  Hanging around with stoners is going to hold you back.  If you want a magazine cover body, hanging around with people who go to McDonald’s will sabotage your efforts.  Whatever you want to get good at and succeed in, you need to find those same people and be around them.
  13. Spend Quality Time with Them: Life can pull you in many directions away from the people closest to you. Build and invest in your friendships because strong friendships make life worth living.  Stop interacting online with everyone; get out and do things together.  Talk about real things as well, don’t just talk bullshit about the Kardashians or sports.
  14. Don’t Try to Put on Appearances or Impress People: They won’t be impressed. If you’re average, people will like you because you’re just like them.  If you’re unsuccessful, people will like you and pity you.  If you’re successful, people won’t be impressed; they’ll often be jealous, thinking you don’t deserve it.  You can’t win whichever way you go.  Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, and do what makes you happy.  Putting on appearances is exhausting because you’re essentially living a lie.  Be the real you, be the best version of you.
  15. Learn Who You Are: Believe it or not, self-awareness is a rare trait. Most people have this image of who they are, but it’s often very different from reality.  When you know who you are and what makes you tick, you can look for jobs and careers that best suit you.  Learn your strengths; when you do, learn to work on them rather than your weaknesses.  When you play to your strengths, they get even stronger; working on your weaknesses all the time is frustrating and doesn’t yield the same results.
  16. Stretch Yourself: So many people live in a bubble. Rather than trying new things, they sit in a comfort zone and decompose from the inside out.  You won’t believe how much your life and outlook can change when you decide to step out of that bubble and try new things.  It would help if you also tried to get out there and do things that will test you and scare you.  Get out of your comfort zone because it’s one of the best ways to grow.
  17. Spend Time With Your Family: Because you only get one. Don’t blow off the once-a-week dinner with your parents or skip family events.  Families (along with friends) are the ones who will pick you up when you fall, who will be there when you need them most, and vice versa.  Don’t ever take them for granted.  Whatever beefs you might have with your parents, talk to them – they can’t fix things when they don’t know the problem.  Please don’t make them guess because they don’t have ESP.
  18. Don’t Take Your Health for Granted: Join a gym, run, swim, join a local sports team, whatever. As long as you do something you enjoy and keep the weight from piling on, that’s all you need.  Make sure it’s fun, too.  If it’s fun, you’ll keep doing it, but also, why would you want to torture yourself and do something you hate to stay healthy?  If you can have fun while exercising, that’s a great double whammy.
  19. Live Passionately: I saved this for last because I believe it to be the culmination of all the above points and one of the most important on its own. I mentioned that bored office people who talk about sports are a dime a dozen.  I mentioned them talking about sports because when they do, they are talking about other people living their passion while living a life of boring mediocrity.  Do as many things as possible that make you happy and that you have a passion for, because it will open doors that you can’t even imagine.  People love to be around positive, passionate people because they are energetic and interesting and have a zest for life.  I can tell people who are passionate about life almost as soon as I meet them because they have a fire in their eyes and an intensity in their voice that reveals who they are.  We only get one life, so make the most of it and love every second of it, even the down moments, because they make the up moments that much better.
  20. Now that you’ve read all this don’t take life too seriously. No one gets out alive.

 I enjoyed this list of twenty pieces of advice.  They represent much of what I’ve written here on these pages, and many regular readers will know that they are true.  Right now, I’m on an adventure to discover more advice for young men (that also applies to young women), which is why I picked the articles that stand out.

Travel this adventure with me.  Make recommendations yourself in the comments section.  There is much more you can do to be a better young man.  The author of this article left out several suggestions that I will pick up in future articles.


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  1. “55 Rules for a Good Life,” on Amazon (link here).
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Author: Douglas R. Satterfield

Hello. I provide one article every day. My writings are influenced by great thinkers such as Friedrich Nietzsche, Karl Jung, Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, Jean Piaget, Erich Neumann, and Jordan Peterson, whose insight and brilliance have gotten millions worldwide to think about improving ourselves. Thank you for reading my blog.

19 thoughts on “Advice for Young Men: the Good Men Project

  1. LuLu

    New here but just a note that this mini-series on “advice to young men” is perfectly timed.

    1. Douglas R. Satterfield Post author

      Lulu, welcome aboard. Yes, I recently started a series on “Advice for Young Men” with the intent of doing a much deeper dive than I’ve done before. I have a number of articles on this topic that are just randomly scattered around. Here, however, I will be doing more than just consolidating them, but also trying to pull out the major themes in maker young men better, from their perspective.

      1. Eddie Gilliam

        Doug my friend i too welcome Lulu to the family. Excellent article.

  2. Lou Schmerconish

    Another great list…… thank you, Gen. Satterfield for this new series.

  3. Bobby Joe

    Wow, very nice list, Gen. Satterfield. I’m happy that you’ve decided to start writing articles that give advice to young men. I look forward to traveling with you on that journey and it is a true noble journey.

    1. Melo in Chicgo

      Yes, Tomas, and we all look forward to this endeavor as Gen. Satterfield starts to build this list of pieces of advice for young men. These young men have been unfairly and unjustifiably denigrated by modern-day feminists who see “power” from the political sect of our society and have unwillingly and unknowingly unleashed a crime wave because men are disposed. Shame on the women’s lib movement and believe all women movement. These are destructive forces and women are to blame. Gen. Satterfield will work to change that.

    1. Pastor John 🙏

      Yes, Ayn, we all do. 🙏🏻 And I do think that much of what is mentioned in these pages is an attempt by Gen. S. to help us identify and then stay on the right path toward righteousness and goodness. That is the best way to live a good life and to have purpose. 🙏🏻 As Gen. S. tells us, Truth and the Pursuit of Responsibility. These are not mere words but a guidepost to a good life.

  4. Cow Blue

    Gen. Doug Satterfield is giving us some great advice and recommendations. Let us not forget parts of this website that are often overlooked. First is the DAILY FAVORITES, and I want to add another book under today’s Claremont Review of Books, “Peace Through Strength”
    Second is “Letters to My Granddaughter.” And, third is his READING LIST. Get onto reading these books, and remember that one of the major pieces of advice for young men is to read good books. Here is a great start with Gen. Satterfield lists. Thank you, sir!

        1. The Northeast

          Good one, Gen. Satterfield. I hope you come out soon with your newest book. Will it be on your letters to your granddaughter, or will it be advice to young men, or something else. My spider senses are up and ready. Let us know. Thank you sir.

      1. American Girl

        Hey JT, great to hear from you again, thanks for the recommendations. Anyone not reading these books by Gen. Satterfield are harming themselves. a pity.

  5. Joe the Aussie

    I’m darn happy you are taking on Advice for young men, Gen. Satterfield. A great endeavor to help rescue what our liberal, fascist state under Joe Biden has brought us thru the neo-Marxist crazies.


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